In his preface to Dr. Kok's book, "90% of Helping
Is Just Showing Up", Jacob Heerema (Christian Reformed Pastoral
"Every decision we make should open our world wider. So, with the persistence
of an olympic athlete, Jim Kok urges us to take an honest look at ourselves,
others, and our world through the eyes of Jesus.
We are encouraged to deny neither our pain nor our power. To deny our
pain is to live in an unreal world. The journey towards spiritual maturity
demands that we own our hurts and that we affirm others in their suffering.
To deny God's life-giving power is to settle for death when He offers
So how do we become open to this wider world? Ninety percent of helping is just being there. It's so simple, yet so profound! Healing for our hurts comes alive through the loving presence of caring friends.
We invite you to read this book with care. It may become a land mine that helps us destroy our defenses. But it will also surely be a gold mine of creative insight about how to bring hope in the context of our hurts."