Motivating people to practice intentional acts of kindness

These Things Make A Difference

  1. Show interest Ask people about their work, their car, their home, their children or grandchildren, pets, vacations, trips.

    Note: “When time allows” is an important qualifier here. Asking such questions, and then abruptly leaving, can cancel everything gained. When you ask the question, you must allow the time for them to answer. Attentive listening is vital. Showing interest is a powerful form of friendliness.

  2. Smile generously Our smile is always available. Remember to turn it on.

    Anyone, regardless of age, or level of intelligence, can lift another’s spirits with a smile. Not only is that person lifted — the one smiling is, too. Putting on a smile makes the person offering the smile feel better. Smiling even raises our immunity level! Frowns generate bad chemicals — smiles produce beneficial chemicals.

  3. Notice and mention feelings.>One goal of friendliness is to lift another’s spirits. It is comforting and heartwarming when someone notices and acknowledges feelings.

    We heal someone more that way than when we try to change their sorrow, fear or anxiety by offering advice we think will help. For example, when noticing a tear in someone’s eye, we can say, “You’re feeling sad …” That is more heart-warming than “Cheer up”! Hurt feelings are healed by naming them.

    Sympathetic words are more helpful than reminding people verbally that Jesus cares. Caring people who show understanding effectively communicate Jesus’ love without having to verbalize it.

Excerpt from 'Thirteen Secret Behaviors' section of Jim Kok's book, Transform Belief Into Behavior. Available here from Amazon.

These ‘Secret Behaviors’ are not truly secret—but they are far too often overlooked. The humble effectiveness of being friendly cannot be over-emphasized. People all around us are hungry for a touch of care, concern, love, even simple acknowledgement.

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At my age ’Getting lucky’ means walking into a room and remembering what I came in there for.

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The secret is that, more than saying anything, you just show up!

We help people by leaving our own comfort zone and standing close to them.