Care Capsule
Capsules of Motivation to Dispense Care and Kindness

Volume 16 - Issue 2
No. 46
June 2013



In This Issue

13 Secret Behaviors

Partnering for a Care Conference in your area

Lord, Help Me Remember

Have You Sent Your Email Address To Us?

Care Conference in Santa Ana, California

Care Conference in Mission Viejo, CA

Care Conference in New Jersey

Take Time or Make Time

Light Notes

Adam's Rib




13 Secret Behaviors

—— Dr. James R. Kok

These Secret Behaviors are not truly ‘secret’ —but they are far too often overlooked.

The humble effectiveness of each of them cannot be over-emphasized. People all around us are hungry for a touch of care, concern, love — even a simple acknowledgement.

Why do I call them secret? The secret is that you privately and quietly plant in your heart and mind a plan to put these behaviors into practice.

It is your personal hidden agenda to offer these gifts to those you meet. Jesus said to us “You are the light of the world, let your light shine.…” and this list creates a small menu for accomplishing just that in everyday life. You need not advertise that this is what you are working at. You just modestly — but boldly — sprinkle gifts wherever you go . . . gifts that are wonderful blessings to both the giver and the receiver.

1. Greet people, whether they are looking at you or not: “Good morning. It is good to see you”. Become an enthusiastic and fanatic greeter. Greet everybody—say “Hello”, “Good Morning”, “Great to see you!”—anything, to send a pleasant message of noticing them.

A greeting is a connection. It is knocking at a door saying, “I notice you... You are valued... You are somebody!” That is a simple, clean blessing everybody needs. There are no exceptions.


Dr. James R. Kok has written a definitive resource detailing the key essentials in becoming a more caring person in his latest book, “The Miracle of Kindness” (available on, in either paperback or Kindle edition.) A handful of basic tools —wrapped in courage—are the secret to changing the world through intentional acts of kindness.

As the Koach Of Kare, Dr. Kok has been a pastor at the Crystal Cathedral for the past 29 years and heads the Care Ministry department of the church. He is the author of six books and numerous articles, and he is the founder of the Conference on Care and Kindness.

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